In this chapter you will learn:
- How to build self-confidence quickly
- How to be dedicated.
- How to build a link to success and create your ideal lifestyle.
Self-confidence can be built; you can train yourself. Like any other building activity, you have to mix several things so as to build self-confidence. If you build enough self-confidence, you will have built a link to success and creating your ideal lifestyle. Confidence is the pathway to success it will make you achieve what you what. It will make you a real model who inspires most people. Though some people are naturally born with self-confidence, most of them learn or acquire it as they grow.
There is nothing which is as good as having self-confidence. Confidence is everything because you will proud of who you are, what you do, and what you say. People will also trust and have faith in you if you. As stated earlier the well-renowned speakers have one character which most people lack and it is none other than self-confidence. If you have self-confidence you can convince. If you lack this attribute you will find it very hard or impossible to take leadership roles.
The most successful men and women build self-confidence in themselves and in whatever they do. Self-confidence will also help you overcome challenges in life. It will help you make decisions quickly and put off any doubts which you may have about the probability of success or failure of the thing you want to undertake. Check the following diagrammatic illustration about self-confidence and doubt you will take a long time to decide or be totally indecisive if you have low or no self-confidence.
Research has shown that most people are reluctant to back or approve something which was proposed by someone who at the time of leadership or proposal was fumbling, apologetic and nervous. You will persuade most people if you hold your head high, answer questions directly and with confidence, and when you openly admit when you do not know something. If you are self-confident you will inspire many others including your seniors, equals, audience, friends, peers, and even customers.
Gaining the confidence of others is always termed success and you should aim at doing so all the time. As stated earlier, self-confidence can be learned or acquired if you are not naturally born with it. Your level of confidence can be seen in various ways including what you say, how you talk, body language, and behavior among others. It will help you rejuvenate during the low moments and events in life.
You can help build self-confidence it the young kids. You have to teach them to overcome shyness and approach life with confidence. Lack of confidence in a child will be reflected in poor performance and slow learning. Children who are not self-confident do not have the courage to ask questions from their teachers. They also lack confidence in whatever they do or say while at school or in class.
Participation in physical and other extra-curricular activities will give your child the capability of talking before fellow students and also before teachers. Some kids are so shy that they cannot even explain themselves clearly to their parents and this is wrong. Children like the ones in this photo should be taught and trained on how to become self-confident. This will lay a very strong foundation for the need to succeed in their lives.
Components of self-confidence
In this chapter you will learn about:
- What makes up the confidence?
- How to acquire attributes especially self-esteem and self-confidence
- How to create your ideal lifestyle by realizing your full potential through confidence
The term Building in construction means joining or putting up different elements so as to come up with a concrete structure. The building of confidence is not much different; you have to acquire attributes especially self-esteem and self-confidence so as to create your ideal lifestyle by realizing your full potential through confidence.
Self-confidence does not happen; some other factors must be present so that it can develop. It is a component of several other attributes. You must have vision and goals so as to be self-confident. You also need to have positive self-esteem and self-efficacy. You need to possess several attributes in order to trust yourself. If you were not born naturally self-confident as is the case with most people, then you will be required to work so as to achieve this vital attribute.
There are two main components of self-confidence namely self-esteem and self-efficacy. These two factors (self-esteem and self-efficacy) are very important in the life of an individual. They will be discussed briefly and shallowly here because self-efficacy will be covered and discussed in detail in chapter 4 while self-esteem will be discussed in depth and in detail in chapter 5. Self-efficacy is the belief that you are up to a certain task or challenge. It is the belief that you are not disadvantaged; that you are proud of who you are and what you can do. It is the capacity to motivate yourself when you fail.
Self-esteem on the other hand is the belief that you are a person who is worthy and that you are capable of doing something positive. If you lack either self-efficacy or self-esteem you cannot create your ideal lifestyle by realizing your full potential through confidence. If you lack both self-esteem and self-efficacy it will be worse because you will have a feeling that you are worthless; unimportant and that you are inferior to others.
Life will not make sense and this is dangerous because you may have suicidal thoughts, stress, depression, anxiety, or even go insane! Self-confidence which is the product of mainly self-efficacy and self-esteem will give you peace of mind even if you do not have material wealth. If you are a leader, self-confidence will give you the power to lead but not to rule or oppress. If you are a servant, it will give you the power to serve and please your master. It will give you the capability to lead your life and live without hassle, tension or stress.
Excerpted from the book Confident Creatures.
This excerpt has been edited and condensed for clarity.
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