As you only have a few minutes, focus on the significant things. First try to figure out whether or not this person is suited for you. Within a couple of minutes you’ll already be getting a certain feel from that person. Whether it’s a good thing or not, you have every bit of power to steer the date your course of direction, so to speak. You must emit a confident, driven and likeable energy.
That way your date would feel more comfortable and conversations will by easy. It’s also a practice of good judgment. Keeping an open mind is key. Don’t shut yourself to the idea of seeing this person until you get to know them. Zone in on what the person's life feels like, and whether or not he or she's happy with it. In the long run, the success or failure of the date will depend upon the little things that the other individual does or says -- just like in a conventional dating situation. The little things count.
Everyone prepares for dates in their own special way; may it be an elaborate bath routine or stress-relieving yoga positions to achieve the best state you can for the dating game. However the magical structure of speed dating requires that you at least have an idea of your dating preferences. Before you go into the sitting, a good trick would be to formulate a simple list of all your likes and dislikes.
It will help cross out some of the other time consuming elements, as well narrow down all your thoughts so you wouldn’t have to stammer out things you’ll later on regret or feel stupid for. Be cool and keep it simple. Jot down personality quirks that irritate you and any likely "deal breakers" -- traits or habits that you'd never wish to find in an individual you date. If any of your speed dates exhibit these traits, then you are able to speedily eliminate them as feasible companions.
It likewise helps to compose a short mental list of favorable traits, too. Either things that you love, traits you’d like them to have, or things that you would like to undergo while dating. Remember, it never hurts to be a bit adventurous. And it’s all in the fun of speed dating, so go on ahead! But keep in mind that all the rainbows and butterflies kick in during the relationship. Not within a couple minutes of googley-eyed gazes and “so tell me more about yourself” lines.
Here's how it goes: Interested men and women assemble at a preset spot. While the women sit at individual tables, the men go around in 10 minute intervals till they've met and talked to each woman in the room. As the evening starts to wrap up the shindig, you let the event organizer know which individuals you're interested in seeing again, and the organizer gives out contact info.
What you choose to do next is totally up to you! Now ain’t that fun? During a speed dating event, too many individuals pretend to be somebody they're not in hopes of getting more individuals interested in them, as well as raking in a higher number of dates. This is a complete and total waste of time. The object of speed dating is to find a suitable and potential partner within 10 minutes of agonizing fun. 10 minutes to find someone and impress them with just you.
Not the shiny, fake image you want to portray but the person who’s going to end up working hard for the relationship. The person who will either enjoy being in love or suffer with not only a broken heart, but an identity crisis now too! You owe it to yourself to be the best person you can be. So but your best face forward and love the skin that you’re in.
Think about it this way: if you wish to find somebody to be with for the long run and go on romantic dates with, and share the kind of loving you’re dying to give, they have to like you for who you are. Communicate. Reach out to that person as who you are from the very beginning, the very first time you reach her table and the seconds start ticking.
You won’t only discover that person a whole lot better, but you might also discover the correct somebody. That person that could finally, maybe, be “The Right One.” And that’s a big thing! The amusing thing about speed dating is that you only have six to ten minutes to decide who you view is dating material! Just a good-sized amount of time to dive into the sea of chance.
So you might as well make the best of it and have a couple of solid questions organized. It’s likewise advantageous to have answers for these questions at the ready! Think about the most common sorts of questions you're more than likely to be asked and devise a short response for each. There is nothing worse than bumbling for words in spot where you only have a few minutes to make that all-important initial impression.
This is where I remind you that the little list we discussed earlier is key. It's likewise a great idea to prepare a mini "Personal Infomercial" - - A really short 1 to 2 minute life history about yourself that highlights a few favorable aspects of your personality. Have it memorized and ready to blurt at a seconds notice.
Do keep it fun and light! This isn’t History class so easy on the walk down memory lane unless you want your date bored out of their minds. Alright then! That sums it up. The following chapters will delve into the other topics you would like to be taught in, as well as some that you might not already know and very important instructions you need to follow.
Excerpted from the book Dating Do’s And Don’ts.
This excerpt has been edited and condensed for clarity.
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