There are some basic requirements which are common in almost every relationship and in this chapter I will tell you all of those.

• Responsibility from both ends
• Take care of your relationships
• Enhance communication between your relationships
• Give your loved ones their time

The Basics

We all strive for good relationships in all fields of our life because without good and effective relationships it becomes very hard to survive in the society. Good and healthy relationships are also essential for our physical and mental health but we often lack these kinds of healthy and long lasting relationships whether it comes to friends, family or husband wife. You can have troubles with any of your relationship.

There has been a great research going on which emphasis on finding the true parameters of a healthy relationship and surprisingly they have come to know some very basic things which almost every one of us knows but we often forget to implement those facts in our daily lives and screw our relationships. Following are some of the basic rules which can create magic for your relationship.

Responsibility from both ends

Feeling yourself responsible is very crucial in relationships and no matter which relationship you are talking about but you must feel yourself responsible at one end. Take care of certain things for example if it is relationship with your little sister then, instead of just playing the blame game that she made boyfriend whom you do not like you should take some responsibility and say that if I am wrong then, let it be and listen to your sister whole story carefully and without any biasing make the decision with your full responsibility which is to keep your little sister happy and safe.

Talking rudely and considering yourself always right is not the ways to handle any relationship whether it is relationship with your elder, with your Youngers or with your mates but you need to be polite and proactive about your thoughts. If you start feeling yourself responsible then, it will allow you to find some mutual agreements which will be beneficial for the both parties. If you are really after flourishing your relationships then, add some responsibility in those relationships and things will start to get better.

Take care of your relationships

Care is another very crucial part of your relationships because no matter which relationship you have but you will always love to have someone caring about you. This is human nature that we always love attention and care. Similar case applies to everyone who is attached to you. Your family, your friends, and your girlfriend everyone is starving for your care and attention.

You must have heard that saying that you only get what you give and this saying applies to relationships perfectly. You cannot expect your friends to take care of you if you are not providing them with that care. Similarly your girlfriend will never trust you if you keep checking his phone calls and emails. It’s all give and take because nobody in this world is perfect which includes you as well.

There are shortcomings in everyone but you need to ignore those shortcomings found in other if you want that they should ignore you. If you started to explore their shortcomings then, it will start a war in which both parties will always be looking for some bad things in each other. You also need to take care of the emotional bank in your relationship.

This is true that whenever you make a relationship then, an emotional bank account is created and your actions, feelings, words, gestures and everything which you do in that relationship adds some emotions in that bank account. If you deposit happy moments, good gestures, caring feeling then, you can withdraw love and care in return but if you start to deposit hate, secrets, rude behavior, ignorance then, it will make things worse and you will not get anything in return but your emotional account will get jammed and you will not be able to withdraw anything.

Enhance Communication between Your Relationships

Communication failure is another thing which causes chaos in relationships because most of the people take communication in a negative perspective and they think that they conveyed their idea, their thoughts and their rules which completes their communication but this is just one half of the communication and you are missing the other half which is listening and understanding the thoughts and ideas of other party.

You need to stop thinking that everyone around you also thinks as your do because this is the worst approach which your mind often convinces you to adopt but you need not to adopt it. Even if you need to reject their idea then, first listen to them carefully and then give a logical explanation of your rejection. You need to understand the differences between the both parties. You may be on different grounds while the other one may be on totally different grounds. If you are able to understand and cope with these differences then, you can certainly make that relationship work for you.

Give Your Loved Ones Their Time

Time is also a crucial thing in building relationships because every relationship will need your time. You need to adjust your routine accordingly and nourish all of your relationships with proper timing. Instead of keeping your routine very tight and predictable make it unpredictable sometimes and pay a visit or two without your routine.

Escape your work somehow in mid-week and pay a visit to your father. He will be very happy to see you around in middle of the week and will also appreciate your effort that you have prioritized him over your work. Similarly relationships are made stronger when you share ups and downs of life together. If your friend is in trouble then, it is your responsibility to be with him at that time of crises and if you do that then, he will never forget your gestures and will get more attached with you.

If you can implement all of the above things in your life then, it will make all of your relationships better and more solid. These are very common and routine things but in busy routine of our life, we often overlook all of these factors and it creates fuss around our relationships. Keep these things in mind and make your relationships stronger and smoother.

Excerpted from the book Revive Your Relationships.

This excerpt has been edited and condensed for clarity.

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