What is Communication in and with Sexuality?

Understanding sex as communication is very important and complex. The sexual act is one act that has various forms of non-verbal communication that on many occasions are given a wrong meaning. Sexual communication is progressive and it varies between ages. Whatever the age, the key to a safe and rewarding sexual relationship is important. However, for centuries people do not communicate about sex.

What Kind of Communication and at What Age?

Preteens

They should be taught to know their body parts and be aware of their function. At this stage the preteen experience an onset of the secondary sexual characteristics and should be made aware of them. If not, then they become embarrassed.

Teenage and Adolescent Years

Sexual hormones have developed fully making both males and females to feel highly sexed. Males particularly, feel desperately to have climax. This can make them masturbate. If this is not explained to them, they become addicts of masturbation. Among the teenage boys, the number of climaxes per week is higher than any other period of their life. Females at this age, though highly sexed, tend to be shy. Both males and females should be engaged in discussions about sex at this age. Questions about virginity come in at this period.

It is encouraged that the teenage is helped make independent decisions on their sexuality because there is a lot of peer pressure and misinformation.

Teenagers who are poorly informed about sexual matters are more likely to have unwanted pregnancy and/or STIs. Sexual matters should not be demonized at this age. Instead they should be advised so as to make informed decisions. It is a period of experimentation and teenagers should be advised not to make any decisions under the influence of drugs or to be influenced to make a decision.

Young Adults, the 20s

As people move towards 20s, there is a strong tendency of starting formal relationships. They should be helped to start formal relationships and how to manage them. Let them be aware of the demands of a relationship. When such relationships are hurried, they do not last. Let them be aware of the following when it comes to the sexual act:

♧ As a woman, one may have difficulties in having orgasm during the first few relationships.

♧ She may find sex uncomfortable until later.

♧ The couple may find difficulties in synchronizing their climaxes because they are learning with and from each other.

♧ The man may ejaculate too soon, especially during the first experience.

♧ The man may not be able to get a good enough erection to achieve a satisfactory intercourse or may lose it half way.

The most important thing in the 20s is for the couple to understand that once they get used to each other, their sexual problems will be solved. The couple should be encouraged to talk about their frustrations needs freely to each other. The 20s are known to be the ages where the information received from the previous years is practiced.

Adulthood, the 30s

The communication here is one in a steady relationship. The sexual couple get used to each other and each other’s body. They also know how each person’s body responds during a relationship. They therefore perfect their sexual act according to the dictates of their bodies (different people respond differently).

At this stage, each individual starts to realize what the other partner wants. It can also be a peak stage for divorce because might not be sure of their partners or there is harsh criticism which can lead to poor performance. Also a period where one can remember the earlier sexual experiences in the 20s if they are not with the same partner.

Middle Adulthood, the 40s and 50s

Marriage is cemented. Proper communication can stop divorce. Non communication is an enemy to marriage and attempts to adultery. During this stage, the partners freely talk about various issues concerning sexuality. If this is not done, then extra marital affairs are likely.

Encouragement is given to couples to strive for a healthy sexual communication and the couple to solve problems immediately they arise. Women at this age may accuse their husbands of extra-marital sexual affair if the sexual performance is not good. If proper sexual communication occurs at this stage, then there will be a lot similarities between couples, physically, emotionally and in problem solving skills.

Late Adulthood, 60s and above

Even at 60, one can enjoy sex.

According to Alfred Kinsy who is a sex researcher, 70% of men in 70s are still sexually potent. Many activate their sexuality by use of Viagra, Cialisis, and Leritra. After 60 years, many women learn the art of multiple orgasm but due to the drop in the female hormones, many find sex uncomfortable because if the virginal dryness. They therefore use sex lubricants and virginal hormonal creams to make sex comfortable.

At this age, the key to sexual happiness is communication and assurance because with no communication there will be frustrations which can lead to depression which in turn can lead to suicide

Note

At all ages, comfort with sexual communication is directly linked to sexual satisfaction. Research by Elizabeth Berbin, shows that people who are comfortable talking about sex, and are also more likely to do the same when having sex. However, those who are uncomfortable, might live with a partner whom they will never know.